What’s going on in Uruguay?
Just clean your room and start the carnivore diet and all your problems will go away.
Men’s health influencers are not making things better.
I cleaned my room and now I don’t want to kill myself
I haven’t wanted to kill myself before but cleaning my room definiely didn’t hurt
Low carb/keto has done wonders for me.
I read many years ago this same fact, but coupled with more suicide attempts are by females.
If we read the same thing, it depends if you take away the attention seeking non-attempts (e.g. BPD) from actual attempts
We need to get mem comfortable with therepy.
I know, toxic masculinity says “Real men don’t talk about their problems”. We don’t have to tell us the reason society has discouraged us from therepy, too many of us are close minded to it anyway. Just plant seeds and get men talking about shit, and plant more seeds about healthy ways of coping.
Therapy doesn’t work well for man anyway, and health professionals are still in the denial stage, blaming the patients for the failure.
You know, just like anesthesiologists were about woman up to last year or so.
Medicine has a large prejudice problem.
It works better than booze and suicide. See post.
Is therapy any better than a placebo?
Is a therapy session better for men than watching a YouTube video about mental health? taking a walk? Reading a book? Bingeing a TV series? Chronically masturbating?
Somehow, I doubt it.
Saying stuff like that is self protection cope so you rationalize staying away. None of those are even remotely close replacement to therapy. I was resistant for a long time to therapy, but actually going has dramatically improved my life in ways that consuming media never could.
I’ve heard similar arguments from other people, with the only functional difference being the replacement of the word “therapy” with the word “church”.
I accept that therapy has benefited you. I accept that church has benefited others.
My own experiences with therapy do not match yours. Much like my interaction with religion, I found multiple experiences with therapy to be denigrating and exploitative. Despite external criticism and accusations of “toxicity”, I feel my viewpoints on therapy are as valid as anyone else’s.
Well, you’re entitled to your own view. I don’t know you or your history so I’m not going to harp on you. It was obvious from the jump you have therapy trauma and I’m deeply sorry for that. I’ve had bad experiences as a teen with therapy, but looking back I can see I was part of the problem. So now I just see these types of arguments as justification to keep living in a miserable dysfunctional way.
However I will say comparison between organized religion and a medical science is sort of silly. I get what you’re going for, different strokes for different folks. But therapist are trained medical professionals backed by research and countless studies, not “sky wizard said I alone know best”.
I’ll leave you alone, I just had to say something. Bless and GL. ♥️
Go, find out. Can’t be worse than being in the post.
Peer pressure is not an adequate replacement for scientific study.
Last thing I want to do is pressure you. Therapy is a safe space, you can talk or not talk as you wish.
You are proving my point brilliantly though. Men are so resistant to therapy despite it being shown to work. Here’s an article with links to a study.
Here’s an excerpt:
Data shows that when men do access services such as NHS Talking Therapies, their outcomes are comparable to those of women, demonstrating that evidence-based treatment works — if men can get to it. Access to evidence-based therapies, including Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), remains vital.
But no, we (men) convinvince ourselves it won’t work and: the post. Worse when shown scientific studies we demand, we’ll reject it to keep our toxic world view intact. Talking works don’t let anyone convince you that “real men don’t talk about their problems” it makes your life worse, it makes society worse.
I feel that anything I post contradicting the “outcomes comparable to those of women”, is trying to “keep our toxic world view intact.”
I feel that any criticism I have about the validity of therapy is dismissed as a “toxic worldview”.
I feel that there is a distinct difference between “talking” and “therapy”.
I feel that you’re demonstrating the parent comment’s point:
Therapy doesn’t work well for man anyway, and health professionals are still in the denial stage, blaming the patients for the failure.
With regards to your comment:
It works better than booze and suicide. See post.
I feel that this is not a valid comparison. Yes, therapy works better than booze and suicide. You know what else works better than booze and suicide? Joining a cult. Scientology. Weed. Pretty much anything works better than booze and suicide, including therapy. I feel that the “alternatives” you provided are disingenuous.
I feel that the primary destabilizing factor in my mental well being is economic, and I feel that any benefit I might achieve from therapy is vastly outweighed by the bill for that therapy.
I feel I’m being told “Therapy is the way, the truth, and the light. No one comes to mental health but through therapy”. And I feel that this sort of worldview is far more toxic than anything I might have in my head.
